Adultery is a private choice. The important rejection of it comes from love, not intimidation. The reason not to commit it is that it is likely to devastate someone you love if he or she learns about it. And the only way that person won't learn about it is if you tell a lot of lies. Telling a lot of lies eventually harms your ability to maintain a trusting relationship; secretiveness undermines intimacy. And tending a committed, intimate relationship is a deeply meaningful part of life, though we all know it has its share of bad days.While biographers have described people who are exceptions and seem able to countenance adultery and marital intimacy at the same time, by and large the reason not to choose adultery is that the pleasure it offers is taken in trade for harming more enduring love and more important loved ones.But publicly humiliating anyone for consensual adultery is draconian, and wrong. It teaches children cynicism. What they see is how little respect there is for privacy, and how gratuitously and harshly adults will harm one another to gain a little power. And using adultery or any aspect of consensual adult sexuality as a weapon in political battles is more abhorrent than the act itself.You might say that how and why we disapprove of adultery is as important as whether we do.
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Also found at Drudge, this timely reminder:
"Is It Only About Sex?" wrote the New York Times in August 1998.
"Maybe It Is About Sex," wrote Slate the same month.
"High crimes? Or just a sex cover-up?" Time magazine wrote the next month.
That was the tack back then, after 50-year-old Bill Clinton was accused of having sex with a 22-year-old White House intern, often in the Oval Office. Clinton vehemently denied the allegation, wagging a crooked finger as he spat: "I want you to listen to me. I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Ms. Lewinsky. I never told a single person to lie, not a single time, never."
Before the whole mess unraveled, Clinton also said: ''It is time to stop the pursuit of personal destruction and the prying into private lives and get on with our national life."
So that's pretty much my whole comment for y'all on Stormy Daniels and her massively dilated pupils on TV last night, talking about an affair that took place in 2006, not in the White House last week. An affair that, to my uncertain knowledge, no one is actually denying.
Now she can get back to her strip club tour of the USA. Peel in peace, Stormy baby.